All Things You Need To Know About Dating – Minglewise
‘Dating’ is a word that gets hugely complicated once you unpack it, and what the term means to any given person is largely an issue of semantics, much like what a person actually means when they say they’re “seeing someone” or “hanging out” or “having a thing.”
There’s a difference between dating someone and just dating. “Dating” means you’re going on dates. You are actively getting out there and meeting people and spending time with them. “Dating someone” means you’re seeing somebody specific, with purpose and on a regular basis.
*If you can check these off your list, you are, in fact, dating someone: 1. You like someone and you’re trying to get to know them better. 2. You’re spending time with a person (or persons) in hopes of finding a committed relationship. 3. You can see yourself settling down (or at least entertain the idea) with the person or persons you see regularly.
Here are some examples of situations in which you are NOT dating someone: 1. You don’t want a relationship at all, and you’ve been clear about that to everyone you get to know/hook up with. 2. The person you’re getting to know/hooking up with has been clear that they don’t want a relationship at all.
3. You don’t usually see the same person more than once or twice before you move on.
The difference between “dating” and “hooking up” or “having fun” or “hanging out” is intention. If you want to find someone to have a relationship with, you’re dating.
Let’s be honest. Dating is Hard. Between nerves and expectations, we can often forget how to be engaging and likable. Here are some Tips:
DO's of Dating 1.Be joyously confident or nervously confident. We each have something to offer by way of our company. Know that some of your essence will be glimpsed. 2.Enjoy the process. There is nothing to fear because on a date you take one step (an opening question perhaps) and observe what happens, and then you decide on the next step. 3.Learn from the experience. As long as you take away something from the date, you’re progressing. Try to reveal a bit of yourself. A little mystery is good on a date, but you don’t want your date struggling to figure you out either. 4.Take a break when you need to. This is what bathrooms are for. A few minutes can give you time to ponder your progress or to regroup. 5.Have positive expectations that a date will go well. Be open to the fact that a date, and a relationship, can play out in many different ways.
DONT'S OF DATING: To keep interaction moving along, much like traffic, knowing what not to do can often be as helpful as knowing the right things to do. 1.Don’t always be “on.” To cover nerves, it is sometimes tempting to talk nonstop or to try out all our “best” lines and attention-getting tactics one after the other. After a while it feels awkward to go “natural,” and your date may be exhausted trying to intuit your authentic character. 2.Don’t try too hard. This includes being unnaturally polite, making sure there are absolutely no silences, laughing too often, using profane language, and being too intense or serious. If you find yourself doing these things, take a breath and relax. Think of something you’d really like to know about the person or to comment on an observation you’ve made during the pause. 3.Don’t lie to impress your date. You don’t want to have to cover your tracks later because you said you had a better job position than you do, more important responsibilities, a higher salary, a famous friend/acquaintance, or the perfect family.
4.Don’t keep your date waiting. No matter how wonderful you look by taking all that extra time to get ready, it’s not polite to keep a date waiting or worrying whether he got the right time or place.
5. Don’t over compliment. Everyone enjoys a sincere compliment: “You have a lovely smile,” “You have beautiful eyes,” “What a great laugh.” If your date starts to squirm or looks uneasy, you’ve gone overboard with the compliments or gotten too
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